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In This Issue
Global Leaders Call for Major Shift to Decriminalize Drugs
the Interventionist
Positive Thoughts
California Corner
Atlanta News

 Happiness is when what you think, what you say and what you do are in harmony.

 ~Mahatma Gandhi
 

Endurance is nobler than strength, and patience than beauty.

 

 ~John Ruskin

The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.

 ~Helen Keller

 

The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience,

but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.

 

 ~Martin Luther King, Jr.

Definition of a hero 

he·ro Pronunciation Key (hîro) n. pl. he·roes

 

1. In mythology and legend, a person, often of divine ances­try, who is endowed
with great courage and strength, celebrated for their bold exploits, and
favored by the gods.

 

2. A person noted for feats of courage or nobility of purpose, especially one who has risked or sacrificed his or her life.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


Thursday, June 9, 2011 Volume 3, Issue 27

Our primary focus is our own recovery and rebuilding our own lives. We will lead by example and not interfere with another's recovery.

Global Leaders Call for Major Shift to Decriminalize Drugs

By Liz Goodwin

 

A slew of big-name former politicians are endorsing a report that says the war on drugs is not working and that drug enforcement policy needs to fundamentally change. The Global Commission on Drug Policy will urge a "paradigm shift" that emphasizes public health over criminalization tomorrow at a meeting in New York City, The Guardian reports.

Those backing the report include former Mexican President Ernesto Zedillo, former UN Secretary General Kofi Annan, former U.S. Secretary of State George Shultz and former Fed Chair Paul Volcker. Former elected leaders of Greece, Brazil and Colombia have also signed on.

"What we have here is the greatest collection thus far of ex-presidents and prime ministers calling very clearly for decriminalization and experiments with legal regulation," Danny Kushlick, spokesman for the drug policy center Transform, told the Guardian. "It will be a watershed moment."

But, faced with the list of "formers" backing the new recommendation, The Lookout couldn't help but wonder: Where are all the current office-holders who think the drug war has been a failure?

Tom Angell, spokesman for Law Enforcement Against Prohibition, a group of former and current police officers against the criminalization of drugs, tells The Lookout he thinks sitting politicians will have to change their tune as American public opinion changes.

"I think as this debate continues to heat up and move forward you'll start to see more and more sitting elected officials endorsing fundamental reforms," he says. Even among LEAP's membership, most are retired law enforcement officers. Only a "handful" are active-duty cops, Angell says, in part because it's difficult for police officers to question the value of laws that they risk their lives to enforce every day.

Despite the political pitfalls of challenging drug policy, a few recent signs point to something of a bipartisan consensus forming on the issue. In April, an NAACP report that said states send too many young people to jail for non-violent drug offenses picked up surprising endorsements from former GOP Speaker of the House Newt Gingrich and Grover Norquist, the conservative activist who founded Americans for Tax Reform. The report said more than a quarter of the 2.3 million American prisoners are jailed for drug offenses, which bloats the system and eats up tax dollars. Christian talk show host Pat Robertson caused a stir in December when he endorsed on "The 700 Club" faith-based rehabilitation programs instead of jail time for drug use, and even appeared to support the legalization of marijuana. "I'm not exactly for the use of drugs, don't get me wrong," he said. "I just believe that criminalizing marijuana, criminalizing the possession of a few ounces of pot--that kind of thing--it's costing us a fortune and it's ruining young people."

The Interventionist

Joani Gammill, professional interventionist and recovering addict, intertwines her story of recovery with a depiction of one of her often harrowing and always inspiring interventions.

Over Threats, Memories, and Car Trauma

It's cold outside. There are many dry leaves on the uneven stone steps as I race from entrance to entrance trying to reach the door before Jeff locks us out.

Always wear sensible shoes. This is one of the important rules to live by as an interventionist. Early in my career I learned that running in heels is inadvisable. As with most careers, I think, it's the on-the-job training that proves to be the most valuable. And attention to what appear to be mundane details can sometimes make or break an intervention.

So in my sensible shoes I run from door to door. The sky above is gray. It's late winter. Even drunk, disheveled, and in his bathrobe, Jeff manages to reach each entrance before me, leaving me breathless and cold, locked outside along with his stressed-out family. His mom has stayed behind, and from the bottom of the driveway, where she is clutching her walker, she stares up at us, hope and worry in her eyes.

The call had come a week earlier. A frantic and personable sister telephoned from overseas. She is a professional with an extremely high-level job in a part of Europe most people will never visit.

I always try to answer my phone. I do this for two reasons. The first reason is that I assume it takes a huge amount of courage to finally pick up the phone and summon help for a loved one's chemical dependency. By the time an interventionist is called, this living hell has been brewing for a long, long time.

So finally the moment is here. The miseries, worry, and trauma can no longer continue. The interventionist is called. And she answers the phone! The caller's relief at hearing a voice at the other end of the phone is prize enough for me.

Well, not completely. I also do this for a living. Like many Americans, we are a two-income family with two kids. The person who answers the phone also gets the job. That's the second reason.

When Jeff's sister calls, I am driving up Route 2 on my way to the New Way Clinic in Crofton, Maryland. I'm scheduled to talk to a group of patients, many mandatory DUI clients. This is my second such talk, and I'm apprehensive. Sharon's call concerning her baby brother is a relief from my own self-absorbed insecurities.

Sharon describes a potentially desperate situation regarding her brother's condition. Neighbors and an ex-wife in the neighborhood report increasingly erratic behavior and isolation.

"He won't open the door completely when people stop by and won't answer his phone," Sharon reports. "He's behind in his rent and has not been seen consistently at work."

"When was the last time you spoke to him and the last time the neighbors reported seeing him?" I immediately want to know.

I sense her urgency as I feel my own escalate.

Single male alcoholics have one of the highest rates of suicide and accidental death.

"Three days."

Bad news.

Before we can talk about the logistics of an intervention, we must make sure this guy is okay. As luck, or fate, would have it, I'm driving insanely close to his house. Fate or luck--who cares, really? It's convenient, and I'm happy for it.

So from some faraway country way overseas, a desperate big sister stays on the phone and guides me to her brother's house.

He lives on a hill on a crowded and winding street back in the woods. Under other circumstances I would have called the neighborhood "quaint." Tonight it's dark and hard to see. I drive slowly past his house. I think I see the curtains move. Turning my van around for another pass, I look up and see a man peeking through the drapes.

I chuckle lightly to myself, partly out of relief that we have a sighting but also because of a comic moment: we've got ourselves a "window ninja." Paranoia is never pretty, but at times it's amusing. Either amphetamines or end-stage alcoholism can produce this paranoia, which inspires people to "guard" themselves from imaginary enemies.

Every little bit of information I'm obtaining I am cataloging for my next move on helping this guy. I'm on the job.

Sharon is still on the phone, and I ask, "Any cocaine or amphetamines in his history?"

"No," she says, "he has never been a drug guy."

I'm relieved; amphetamine psychosis can be very dangerous and unpredictable. I have found myself crawling on my belly under a locked airport bathroom stall, removing a needle from a woman's neck as she seized, her head rhythmically hitting the base of the toilet. In a beautiful seaside town, in a home so lovely it defied description, an accomplished man attempted to harm me with a power tool.

Cocaine is THE BEAST. Cocaine is an upper, a stimulant sold on the street.
But cocaine is not the enemy tonight. Alcohol is.

I stop the car and get out, with Sharon still on the phone. We have agreed to maintain verbal contact, if possible.

Jeff sees me from the window and seemingly in no time at all cracks the front door open. With only his head sticking out of the door, he stares at me.

"Hey, buddy, everything okay up there?" I ask. The phone is still to my ear, with his sister on the other end. I can hear her breathing as I reach out to her brother. I am the conduit between two siblings separated by oceans, miles, and alcoholism.

"Who are you?" Good, a rational question, I think to myself.

"I am a friend of your sister's. She's concerned that you haven't answered your phone."

"Don't feel like talking to anybody," he counters.

"Fair enough, buddy. We just wanted to make sure you're okay. I have her on the phone."

"Tell her I'm okay, okay?"

"You bet."

He closes the door. The curtain shudders as he watches me leave, back at his watch post.

I don't presume that I'm always right. And God, I hope I'm rarely wrong when it comes to getting a feel for the situation at hand. Active addiction is a dangerous game. I depend heavily on my gut reaction when confronted with addicts and alcoholics. This intuitive sense has served me well in my nursing career. No doubt the skill was honed growing up in my chaotic and challenging family.

Let me rephrase that. The family I grew up in was messed up, full of fear, and devoid of any real healthy love or guidance. I felt my mom loved me, but love alone without the benefit of good parenting left me psychologically compromised. My father, an alcoholic, showed absolutely no love at all. When he was present, the atmosphere at home was intolerable, the air heavy with tension and fear. My mother had personality changes when she drank her nightly beer. As the years progressed, she used tranquilizers as well. Her obsession with my father was complete, as she spent all her time trying to placate a man incapable of any visible joy. She offered no protection or guidance to me in my journey to adulthood. Because of my parents' problems, I was on my own from an early age. To survive emotionally and physically, I learned to read the mood of all the players. I would then calculate my next move based on the information I was collecting in my increasingly injured mind. The birth of exceptional intuition was the result; it was an unexpected gift.

I do not view myself as a victim. That ship sailed years ago with the help of my psychiatrist, Dr. James Kehler; the fellowship of ACA (Adult Children of Alcoholics); and simple maturity. I am merely stating the facts.

So, cold and curbside, I quickly size up the situation with the window ninja and give the sister my assessment and options. I base my information on the history that the sister has given me and on my observations. He is on an alcohol binge. He is a heavy, daily drinker who is having a private party. He is slightly paranoid but still able to talk rationally and stand up. Standing up is good.

The option that's always important to consider is calling 911.When in doubt, this is the safest thing to do. It allows paramedics to assess the patient and make the decision as to whether the person needs to be taken to the emergency room. In Maryland, the second option is getting an emergency petition through the local courthouse for a seventy-two hour hold. Again, the patient is taken to the hospital, but this time the person is required to stay for three days for physical and psychological evaluations. Anyone, not just family, can request this of the court.

In the back of my mind, I am always balancing patient safety and my liability risk. An ugly fact of life for any health care provider is the need to remember the motto "Do no harm and don't get sued." Of course, you can do no harm and still get sued. This thought does not consume me, but I know in modern life it is a reality, and I weigh it accordingly.

"What do you think?" Sharon anxiously asks me.

"I think we have a few days to plan an intervention."

It's traumatic to be dragged off to the hospital. Generally you are put in the most uncomfortable emergency-room bed, way in back, guarded by some underpaid security guard, with crappy food and no TV. You are detoxed while there. Not fun.

If tough detoxes kept us sober, there would be no need for interventionists, rehab facilities, and recovery. I did a million detoxes. They don't stop people from using again. Somebody, I can't remember who, explained it to me this way: Detox is like mowing all the weeds down. Rehab, and especially recovery, is like pulling the weeds out by the roots.

By the time I show up to do interventions in the ER, you would think patients would be agreeable. Tired of the ER bed and having their freedom taken away, you would think that they would eagerly jump up and run off to the greener pastures of a respectable rehab.

Nope, they are pissed! With a foggy memory of cold handcuffs and a squad car dragging them to the ER and away from their beloved booze, dope, crack, and so forth, they usually loudly declare that everything is the family's fault. Counting down the seventy-two hours of prison, they call a cab and hurl obscenities at us. Because they have usually been stellar patients (ha!) in the ER, the staff eagerly calls the cab for them. I swear I've gone to the bathroom and come back and the patient has been discharged.

I do not like to do interventions in the ER.

So it begins. The sister and I plan the intervention, with her talking from airports as she makes her way from eastern Europe. It's my first private intervention. I worked for an intervention company out of Los Angeles in the beginning of my career. Now I'm on my first independent job, and it will rank as one of the hardest and most traumatic for me. It will inspire me to always have security on call. The memories it will invoke in me will take me by emotional surprise.

I do not like this man or enjoy being with him. This is new for me. There's a part of me that almost always falls in love with my fellow addict. Not this guy. Hate and fear will fill my car and my head during our time together.

Still, I must carry on professionally and get this man safely to rehab. I have a strong work ethic. Prayer will become my constant companion.

Excerpted from The Interventionist by Joani Gammill. Gammill appears regularly on Dr. Phil, where she leads interventions that have inspired millions of viewers. Before her career as an interventionist, she worked as a registered nurse in medical facilities and a drug-and-alcohol rehabilitation center.

"Exuding the same passion and purpose as the author herself, Joani Gammill's The Interventionist is a heartfelt game changer and long overdue. You deserve to read it."
--Dr. Phil McGraw, host of CBS's nationally syndicated show Dr. Phil

Inspiring stories from the frontlines of the battle against addiction by Dr. Phil's leading interventionist, Joani Gammill.

Joani Gammill, an average suburban mom on the outside, was secretly addicted to multiple forms of opiates and amphetamine for years, and almost died as a result. Through the life-changing intervention staged by Dr. Phil on his show, Gammill not only committed to getting help for her addiction, but she also went on to become a professional interventionist, helping hundreds of others in distress.

In The Interventionist, she intertwines her story with depictions of her often harrowing and always inspiring interventions of the addicts and families she's worked with over the years. In each chapter, she recounts details of a client's unique battle with addiction and the devastation that led to a loved one's request for her help.

Gammill's intriguing story--and the equally captivating stories of the brave people who come to her for help--demonstrates how it is possible to emerge from the seemingly hopeless world of out-of-control drug use and not only regain one's sanity, but actually discover that life clean and sober can be more meaningful than it ever was before.

Positive Thoughts

 

It is not easy to think positive thoughts when the world around you appears to be so negative. In fact, it can be as difficult as anything you've ever done.

 

However, it is absolutely possible to fill your mind with positive thoughts no matter what your circumstances. Doing so empowers you like nothing else can.

To think positively is to align yourself with the truth that you're immersed in a universe of limitless, growing abundance. To think positively is to graciously accept that your life is destined for meaningful and unique fulfillment.

Instead of placing a judgment on your situation, apply your most positive intentions to that situation. Instead of seeing the world as negative, see yourself as a powerful agent of the positive possibilities.

If you find yourself giving in to negativity, you are selling yourself short. The moment you feel the slightest twinge of a negative thought, stop and remind yourself how powerful you are.

Do the disciplined, intentional work to keep your thoughts positive. Because whatever you most consistently think, is where your life will surely and steadily go.

~Ralph Marston

California Corner

HEROS in CA recently flew F-16 fighter jets around Orange County! Albeit simulated F-16s. HEROS went to the Flightdeck Air Combat Center where they had an authentic military flight simulation providing the chance to pilot a fighter jet flight simulator. Flight-gear, training and in-flight instruction gave them an authentic and challenging aviation-themed adventure! The fact that they were able to dog fight one another for 45 minutes in the air was a healthy way to blow off some jet fuel.

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A calm mind fosters clear seeing, which is another way of saying that if we practice mindfulness, we will have less self-deception. We learn to be honest, and delusions fall away. When we sit in meditation, we observe our mind, watching the thoughts pass through, all the mental traffic honking, swerving, and cutting in. We practice holding "bare attention" toward the thoughts and feelings that arise, accepting them with kindness and non-judgment.

 

 --from Mindfulness and the 12 Steps

Atlanta News  

Upcoming Events in Atlanta

*District 13's Annual Fun & Fellowship Potluck

6 pm, Saturday, June 11

Rock Spring Presbyterian Church

 1824 Piedmont Avenue NE, Atlanta, GA (in the Fellowship Hall)

 

 

* GCYPAA

June 17 - 19

Hilton Garden Inn of Kennesaw, GA

 

GCYPAA is an annual A.A. Conference. GCYPAA stands for the Georgia Conference by Young People inAlcoholics Anonymous.

 

The Conference is a weekend celebration of recovery from alcoholism hosted by a group of recovered

alcoholics that are trying to carry the message of recovery, unity and service to those who suffer from

alcoholism. Generally, the Conference takes place at a hotel in Georgia and features large speaker

meetings, entertainment, workshops, AA meetings and other sober activities that celebrate our

recovery from alcoholism.

 

Each year, the Conference is hosted by a "Host Committee" representing a particular city or area. At theConference, the next group to host GCYPAA is selected. In this way, the Conference travels the state ofGeorgia. Those interested in Conference history are encouraged to consult the archives displayed at theConference and on the Conference website, www.gcypaa.org.

 

*Habitat For Humanity
 
A Journey that Can Change a Life Forever...
June 26-July 2

 
Collegiate Challenge is Habitat for Humanity's year-round alternative break program that provides opportunities for students from youth groups, high schools and colleges to spend a week of their school break building a house in partnership with a Habitat for Humanity affiliate in the United States.

A Collegiate Challenge trip may be the best school break trip you will ever have. Not only do you help people in need - it's also fun!  
 
The HERO House recognizes the power of a truly alternative break, giving students the opportunity to not only have a great time on an affordable trip, but to do so while making a difference. Participants will enjoy being able to clearly see the impact their hearts and hands can have on a Habitat for Humanity house and its host community in just one week.
 
We look forward to taking our residents on this service trip.  While in Augusta, not only will we work with Habitat, we will explore the culture and history of this enduring city.  We will set aside the time for 12-Step Meetings in the Central Savannah River Area.  We look forward to our HEROes becoming heroes for the week in Augusta!

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The Summer Family Weekend will be held June 24-26. Please RSVP for the weekend by June 17. We will begin the weekend with a Social Event on Friday evening.  Saturday will be filled with workshops for the family and for residents.  Sunday will offer opportunity for individual families to meet with staff to discuss your resident.  I look forward to seeing you all at our next Family Weekend.  California Families are invited to attend the Family Weekend activities.

 

Family Weekend

June 24-26

 

All Friday and Saturday activities will be at House 4 - 1780 Timberlake Road, Kennesaw, GA 30144

*All Residents attend these sessions

 

Friday, June 24

 7:15 pm                                   Old Fashioned Ice Cream Social....*

                                   

8:00 pm                                    Graduation Ceremony*

            Family members and friends of Andy H. are invited to attend.  All HEROes will attend this event

 

Saturday, June 25

8:30 am                                    Coffee and Pastries/Welcome

                                                Kelly Moselle, Program Director

 

9:00 am-9:30 am                        Introductions of Staff and Families

                                     

 9:30 am-10:30 am                     I Am Not Mr. Fix-It

                                                Reid M. Al-Anon Member

 

10:30 am - 12:30 pm                 Enabling, Rescuing and Controlling

                                                Bill Anderson, LCSW

 

12:30 pm  - 1:30 pm                  Lunch*

 

1:30 pm-3:00 pm                      My Journey*

                                               Chad H. Recovering Addict and Author

 

3:00 pm-4:30 pm                     Knees to Knees*

                                              Kelly Moselle, Program Director

 

4:30 pm - 5:00 pm                   Wrap-Up and Evaluations

 

5:00 pm and on                        Dinner on your own

 

 Sunday, June 26

 

¨       Open for individual meetings with Staff, schedule with us during the weekend.

 

Hotel for Family Weekend

We have arranged for a HERO House rate at the Springhill Suites by Marriott for Family Weekend.  Conveniently located a mile from our campus, it is a wonderful facility.  Their website is www.springhillsuites.com/atlkn. You may reserve your suite for $89.00 by contacting the Kennesaw Springhill Suites at 770-218-5550 and ask for the HERO House rate.

 

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"Aerodynamically the bumblebee shouldn't be able to fly, but the bumblebee doesn't know that so it goes on flying anyway."

 

~Mary Kay Ash

About The HERO House
 

The HERO House is a recovery residence for college students in early sobriety.  We serve men and women in separate residences, based upon Peer-to-Peer Recovery Support, grounded in the 12-Step process. The HERO House is a community of students in recovery, sharing life experiences and helping each other achieve long term, quality sobriety and a manner of living that will make them outstanding contributors to our society.

 

Additionally, at the Higher Education Recovery Option, we work with students to return to school and to find the tools necessary to be successful while sober, on a college campus.  We tell residents at intake that our program is typically a one-year program; however, we recognize some residents will finish early and some will need additional time.  To successfully complete our program, residents need to complete a 12-Step Program, successfully complete one full-time semester of college, and to advance through all four of our levels of competency at The HERO House.

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