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Happiness is when what you think, what you say and what you do are in harmony.
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Endurance is nobler than strength, and patience than beauty.
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The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.
~Helen Keller |
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The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience,
but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.
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| Definition of a hero
heˇro Pronunciation Key (hîro) n. pl. heˇroes
1. In mythology and legend, a person, often of divine ancestry, who is endowed with great courage and strength, celebrated for their bold exploits, and favored by the gods.
2. A person noted for feats of courage or nobility of purpose, especially one who has risked or sacrificed his or her life.
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Thursday, August 4, 2011 Volume 3, Issue 35
Our primary focus is our own recovery and rebuilding our own lives. We will lead by example and not interfere with another's recovery. |
| Five HEROes are Set to Graduate! | |
Graduating The HERO House program is not easy. We tell our residents that all the time. At some programs you're successful if you pass your drug tests and keep your job. Not so with us. We challenge our residents to be successful with their recovery, their academics and with life skills. Sometimes one area will flourish, while we need to remind them to work on their other areas. By the time our residents graduate they have learned to balance all three areas. The current GPA for our soon to be alumni is 3.45!
In the five year history of The HERO House, 19 people have accomplished the goal of graduation. On August 12 and 13, that number will increase by 25%. Five new alumni residents of The HERO House will be added during our next family weekend!
One of the most beautiful parts of this program is watching our young men and women go from a place of low self-esteem and little confidence and then watch them grow into the amazing men and women they truly are. All five of our graduates are incredible people who should be very proud of the work they have done and what they have accomplished since walking through our door for the first time.
Alex M. calls NYC home. He is currently a sophomore at Kennesaw State University majoring in International Business and minoring in Economics! Alex arrived here in late summer 2010 from Four Circles Recovery Center and has steadily made progress with his recovery. He has worked all 12-Steps under the sponsorship of Ian T. Alex shares that his sponsor reminds him to "forget the past, forget the future, and live for the present. It is not surprising that this native of the big apple shares that he is passionate about the NY Giants, NY Yankees, working out and recovery!
Continuing his studies at KSU, Alex has opted to become a member of the HERO House Long Term Success Program. This program provides a supportive living environment for students engaged in recovery with the residents taking more responsibility for their journey. Congratulations Alex!
Just completing her first semester of college, ever, Erica B. graduates from our program after spending 12 months at The HERO House. She is a native of metro Atlanta and is pursuing a degree at Kennesaw State University. Erica began her recovery journey during her Senior year of high school at Four Circles Recovery Center and then spent seven months at Life Designs Ranch on the West Coast before joining our community. Her passions include lacrosse, working out, running, Frisbee, music and concerts. Of Erica's many words of advice from her sponsor, Laura, her favorite is to pray for a warm fuzzy when you are feeling down. Congratulations Erica!
Soon heading back to the University of Miami, this native of Plano (a suburb of Dallas), Texas has really pushed the timetable in completing all the requirements for graduation. In a mere 7 months, Ian W. has completed all the necessary work to join the ranks of HERO House Alumni. When he arrives back in Florida, Ian will finish his Senior year as student of International Finance and Marketing. Alum of Four Circles Recovery Center, he began working the 12-Steps under Mike M. Ian's transformation was quick under the guidance provided by his sponsor and our staff along with his own hard work. Someone who loves independent music and travel, this Miami student hopes to return to being a DJ at his university's radio station this Fall. Congratulations Ian!
Kaitlynn B arrived at the HERO House last August from Pine Grove Women's Center. At the time, she thought a traditional college route was the path she needed to take. Fortunately, Kaitlynn discovered that her true passion lies with Cosmetology and is studying at Aveda Beauty School. From Ft. Smith, Arkansas, this young woman is sassy, fun and focused upon her recovery. Although her sponsor, Jaqueline S., often reminds her the power of surrender, Kaitlynn likes to focus on having fun in recovery. Some of her many joys include Hula Hoops, comic books and collaging. Congratulations, Kaitlynn!
A native son of Georgia, Preston L. calls Suwanee, Georgia home. Finishing up his first-year experience at Kennesaw State University, he is pursuing a degree in Business Management. Preston began his recovery work at Cumberland Heights before joining the HERO House community last November. Motivated and hard-working are two adjectives used to describe Preston. He works closely with his sponsor, Ian T, who reminds him in his stuggles to ask "what was your part in the situation." Preston likes to take advantage of the Georgia habitat, where you can find him engaged in fishing, golfing, basketball, baseball and football.
Seeking out new opportunities, Preston is actually staying at The HERO House as a program assistant. In this new role, he will be seeking ways to bring more service opportunities for our residents by implementing Hospital and Institution visits for our men and women. Preston will continue his studies as KSU as well. Congratulations, Preston!
We wish these men and women, along with their families, a happy, successful and serene future! |
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Letting Go of What People Think
Often people attempt to live their lives backwards: they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want so that they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then do what you really need to do, in order to have what you want. -Margaret Young
Before I started doing my research, I always thought of people as being either authentic or inauthentic. Authenticity was simply a quality that you had or that you were lacking. I think that's the way most of us use the term: "She's a very authentic person." But as I started immersing myself in the research and doing my own personal work, I realized that, like many desirable ways of being, authenticity is not something we have or don't have. It's a practice-a conscious choice of how we want to live.
Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It's about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen.
There are people who consciously practice being authentic, there are people who don't, and there are the rest of us who are authentic on some days and not so authentic on other days. Trust me, even though I know plenty about authenticity and it's something I work toward, if I am full of self-doubt or shame, I can sell myself out and be anybody you need me to be.
The idea that we can choose authenticity makes most of us feel both hopeful and exhausted. We feel hopeful because being real is something we value. Most of us are drawn to warm, down-to-earth, honest people, and we aspire to be like that in our own lives. We feel exhausted because without even giving it too much thought, most of us know that choosing authenticity in a culture that dictates everything from how much we're supposed to weigh to what our houses are supposed to look like is a huge undertaking.
Given the magnitude of the task at hand-be authentic in a culture that wants you to "fit in" and "people-please"-I decided to use my research to develop a definition of authenticity that I could use as a touchstone. What is the anatomy of authenticity?
Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we're supposed to be and embracing who we are.
The thing is . . . authenticity isn't always the safe option. Sometimes choosing being real over being liked is all about playing it unsafe. It means stepping out of our comfort zone. And trust me, as someone who has stepped out on many occasions, it's easy to get knocked around when you're wandering through new territory.
If you're like me, practicing authenticity can feel like a daunting choice-there's risk involved in putting your true self out in the world. But I believe there's even more risk in hiding yourself and your gifts from the world. Our unexpressed ideas, opinions, and contributions don't just go away. They are likely to fester and eat away at our worthiness. I think we should be born with a warning label similar to the ones that come on cigarette packages: Caution: If you trade in your authenticity for safety, you may experience the following: anxiety, depression, eating disorders, addiction, rage, blame, resentment, and inexplicable grief.
Sacrificing who we are for the sake of what other people think just isn't worth it. Yes, there can be authenticity growing pains for the people around us, but in the end, being true to ourselves is the best gift we can give the people we love. When I let go of trying to be everything to everyone, I had much more time, attention, love, and connection for the important people in my life. My authenticity practice can be hard on Steve and the kids-mostly because it requires time, energy, and attention. But the truth is that Steve, Ellen, and Charlie are engaged in the same struggle. We all are.
DIG Deep Get Deliberate: Whenever I'm faced with a vulnerable situation, I get deliberate with my intentions by repeating this to myself: "Don't shrink. Don't puff up. Stand on your sacred ground." I think there's something deeply spiritual about standing your ground. Saying this little mantra helps me remember not to get small so other people are comfortable and not to throw up my armor as a way to protect myself.
Get Inspired: I'm inspired by everyone who shares their work and opinions with the world. Courage is contagious. My friend Katherine Center says, "You have to be brave with your life so that others can be brave with theirs."
Get Going: I try to make authenticity my number one goal when I go into a situation where I'm feeling vulnerable. If authenticity is my goal and I keep it real, I never regret it. I might get my feelings hurt, but I rarely feel shame. When acceptance or approval becomes my goal, and it doesn't work out, that can trigger shame for me: "I'm not good enough." If the goal is authenticity and they don't like me, I'm okay. If the goal is being liked and they don't like me, I'm in trouble. I get going by making authenticity the priority.
How do you DIG Deep?
Excerpted from The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown, Ph.D. Brown is a writer and research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work. A dynamic speaker, she frequently presents on the topic of shame resilience at conferences and public events. Visit her popular blog ordinarycourage.com to learn more.
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In order to create the product, you must go through the process. Yes, the result is very important, yet without sustained effort there is not going to be a result.
By all means, focus on what you desire to create. And then with your focus firmly fixed, get busy and make the effort.
The value of any achievement cannot be separated from the process of achievement. Working through that process is what makes the achievement worth having.
The dreams and goals set the direction. And then it is the effort that makes it all happen.
Effort is what makes the difference. And that is what makes effort such a substantive and authentic joy.
Welcome the process, welcome the effort, and welcome the price that is paid with your action. By paying that price you receive value that can never be taken away.
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A calm mind fosters clear seeing, which is another way of saying that if we practice mindfulness, we will have less self-deception. We learn to be honest, and delusions fall away. When we sit in meditation, we observe our mind, watching the thoughts pass through, all the mental traffic honking, swerving, and cutting in. We practice holding "bare attention" toward the thoughts and feelings that arise, accepting them with kindness and non-judgment.
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Save The Dates
The next Family Weekend will be held August 12-14. Please SAVE THE DATE for the weekend. We will begin the weekend with a Social Event on Friday evening, followed by Graduation for 5 HERO House residents. Saturday will be filled with workshops for the family and for residents. Sunday will offer opportunity for individual families to meet with staff to discuss your resident. I look forward to seeing you all at our next Family Weekend.
Hotel for Family Weekend
We have arranged for a HERO House rate at the Springhill Suites by Marriott for Family Weekend. Conveniently located a mile from our campus, it is a wonderful facility. Their website is www.springhillsuites.com/atlkn. You may reserve your suite for $89.00 by contacting the Kennesaw Springhill Suites at 770-218-5550 and ask for the HERO House rate. If you have any difficulty obtaining this rate, please let me know immediately. Thank you.
Upcoming Events in Atlanta
*Street Meals Sunday, August 7, 2011 11:00 am - 1:30 pm The HERO House, in partnership with Kashi Atlanta in their Street Meals program, act in service to others. Street Meals helps alleviate hunger for the homeless population in Atlanta. Street Meals is supported by a dedicated corps of volunteers who are committed to seva - selfless service - as an extension of their yoga practice. Teaching people about the joy of community service is a part of our commitment. The first Sunday of every month The HERO House residents and staff make and distribute over 250 sack lunches to Atlanta's homeless. The HERO House wanted to create a service opportunity for our residents as we believe that being of service is a major component in bringing about lasting recovery. When discussing how to bring this project to fruition we turned to Kashi Atlanta for support. We at The HERO House look forward to being part of the change we wish to see in the world!
*Pool Party
August 7, 2011
2:00 pm - 5:00 pm
Swimming, Food and Fun! A sure way to escape the heat!
*4th Annual GARR Recovery Fair
Friday, September 30
The Georgia Association of Recovery Residences has announced that Ms. Shannon Taitt, Partners for Recovery Coordinator at the Center for Substance Abuse Treatment, SAMHSA will be our Keynote Speaker at the 4th Annual GARR Recovery Fair this September. She will discuss the Recovery Support Services Strategic Initiative as part of SAMHSA's mission to reduce the impact of substance abuse and mental illness on America's communities. SAMHSA is part of the US Department of Health and Human Services.
AGENDA OVERVIEW
Friday, September 30, 2011
8:00 - 9:00 am Check-In (Exhibits should be set up by 8:30 am)
8:30 am Continental Breakfast
9:00 am - 10:00 am Networking
10:00 am - 10:50 am Roundtable 1 (Options Available)
11:00 am - 12:00 Noon Roundtable 2 (Options Available)
12:00 Noon - 1:00 pm Lunch (provided)
1:00 pm - 4:00 pm Keynote Program
ˇ Sponsor Presentations
ˇ Keynote Address, Shannon Taitt
Partners for Recovery Coordinator
Center for Substance Abuse Treatment, SAMHSA
ˇ GARR Awards
4:00 pm - 5:00 pm Open Exhibits & Networking
Cost of Registration as an Attendee is:
$65 - GARR Member
$80 - Non-GARR Member
Cost of Registration as an Exhibitor is:
(Includes one 6-foot table and 1 Attendee Registration)
$75 - GARR Member
$100 - Non-GARR Member
You may now register online at http://www.garronline.org/recoveryfair.html
Recovery Fair Location:
Marietta Conference Center
500 Powder Springs St SW Marietta, GA 30064
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"Aerodynamically the bumblebee shouldn't be able to fly, but the bumblebee doesn't know that so it goes on flying anyway."
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About The HERO House
The HERO House is a recovery residence for college students in early sobriety. We serve men and women in separate residences, based upon Peer-to-Peer Recovery Support, grounded in the 12-Step process. The HERO House is a community of students in recovery, sharing life experiences and helping each other achieve long term, quality sobriety and a manner of living that will make them outstanding contributors to our society.
Additionally, at the Higher Education Recovery Option, we work with students to return to school and to find the tools necessary to be successful while sober, on a college campus. We tell residents at intake that our program is typically a one-year program; however, we recognize some residents will finish early and some will need additional time. To successfully complete our program, residents need to complete a 12-Step Program, successfully complete one full-time semester of college, and to advance through all four of our levels of competency at The HERO House. |
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